Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly. —Robert F. Kennedy
That’s one of my favorite quotes of all time. Face it, we all make mistakes, failure is inevitable. What matters is how we deal with them. Most of us choose to fear failures, to dread them, to let them crush ourselves. But, if we deal with them the right way, we can achieve a much greater success. Now, how to deal with them?
Change the definition of failure.
Failure is traditionally defined as: lack of success; an unsuccessful person, enterprise, or thing; a lack or deficiency of a desirable quality; the collapse of a business. See? They are all definition of failure in negative ways. This is why we fear them so much.
From now on, let’s change our definition of failure in more positive way. We can say that failure is the starting line, a part of the process to success. Using this definition, we can look at failure from a whole different perspective.
I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work. —Thomas A. Edison
We should see failure as Edison sees it. Failure is a learning tool. Failure gives us an insight about our work. Failures lets us know which one doesn’t work, which one works good and which needs improvement in the future. They can also help us enrich our experiences and help us better understand about ourselves.
Look into other’s failures.
We often overwhelmed with failures because we think we are the only one in the world failing. We often look into other’s success without knowing how they got there and what were their failures. One thing is for sure: failure is inevitable, everyone had failed at least once in their life.
Start reading biographies or blogs from successful people. They often share many things about their failures that led them to success. Learn how they get up after they failed. Learn how they deal with all those failures and try to adapt it into your life. This way, you can once again see failures in different way.
Don’t give up and move on easily.
Many times failures breaks yourself down. They often make you doubt yourself and gives you anxiety. If you’ve ever been in this situation, you might be tempted to leave whatever you’re doing and move on to the next project. But, try to do it again, you will never know how close you are to success. Here is another quote from Edison regarding this thing:
Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up. —Thomas A. Edison
Also, giving up won’t do you much good. Try to stretch your limit a little bit before you give up. At least you can improve your resilience and grow yourself. As I said before, there are so many things to learn from failure. Make sure you take as much lessons as possible from your failure before you give up.
Now, I’m not saying that you should seek failures to improve yourself and to reach success. Sometimes fear of failures can be protecting and good for yourself too. But, the next time you face them, make sure you face them the right way so you can use them as a pathway to success.